Honesty… The saying goes that it is the best policy, but the truth is that honesty hurts sometimes. When we are going about our life and a friend gives us a wake up call on something we are doing wrong it can hurt.

A long time ago, I struggled with the idea of servant leadership. I thought leadership was translated by authority. Because of this, I was not a leader that inspired confidence or brotherhood. On the contrary, I actually inspired conflict and discord. It wasn’t on purpose. I just had the wrong perspective on leadership.

One day, a friend pulled me aside and set me straight. They told me what I was doing and it broke my heart into pieces. I couldn’t believe that I had messed up so badly. I felt lost and was not sure if a place of leadership was where I belonged.

That night I spoke with my mom on the phone and told her what I was struggling with. I explained that I had been leading wrongly all along and had no idea how to change that. Then my mother, the brilliant and beautiful woman that she is, said to me, “TC, don’t you think that if you asked God to change your style of leadership, He could do it immediately in this moment?” She was right. I prayed and then started living my life and leading in a way that pleased God. Some of the new people on my team at work don’t even believe that story when I tell it because God has changed me so much (others think I still need some changing haha).

Point of all that is, without honesty, our path in life will never stay straight. John 8:32 says, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Even though at times the truth hurts, we all need to hear it. Jesus even said that He was the way, the truth, and the life. If you want to seek God, sometimes you have to deal with yourself. The path is not always easy, but the destination is well worth the struggle.